Proper marital advice for happy married life

Never marry in a hurry. Nature has ordained that men and women get attracted to each other (though there are some aberrations) and the union of a man and a woman leading to birth of offspring ensures that the drama of life goes on.

Marital advice is essential before marriage to prevent marital problems and ensure happy married life.

The ritual of marriage brings a man and a woman together allowing them to live under one roof and have their children. The usual custom is for one man to live with one woman though, here again there are deviations. The biological differences between a man and a woman make them interdependent to some extent.

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How should a man or a woman select his/her life-mate? This question is not easy to answer. In today’s world it is very common for a young man and a woman to decide on their own that they are made for each other resulting in so called love marriages-love that often lasts only till they get married.

In some communities parents decide unilaterally whom their children should marry often resulting in disastrous consequences.

An adult should have the freedom to choose his/her life partner. But one should be fully conscious of one’s duties and obligations. Both arranged marriages and love marriages have advantages and disadvantages.

Marriage is generally considered as once in a lifetime affair in most communities and it should be so except under some unfortunate circumstances.

It is a major event in one’s life and the decision to get married should be taken after due deliberation. The increasing divorce rate all over the world is leading to many social problems. Divorce is one of the worst tragedies in human life.

A marriage based only on physical attraction will not be a success. It should be a union of not just bodies but of minds and souls. It should be based on mutual trust, understanding and a willingness to sacrifice for the other.

Hence marital advice before marriage is extremely important. Love is caring for each other and sharing both joys and sorrows.

If only everyone becomes a little less egoistic and less selfish the world would be a much better place to live in. Each should make a conscious effort to avoid hurting the other from the beginning.

Every human being is unique and no one has any right to expect the other to change completely. Each person should accept the other and try to find out how he/she can make the other happy obviating the need for forcing the other to change.

Minor differences of opinion can often snowball into major conflicts taking marriage near the brink of breakdown unless due caution is exercised by both partners.

It is imperative that would be life-partners talk to each other and discuss their plans for future with each other. In India traditionally woman used to look after the house and men were responsible for earning money. However, nowadays many women are going out to work.

While there is no doubt that a family’s income goes up if a woman also works, this is causing many problems. I firmly believe that a woman should give first priority to her family.

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I have discussed the problems, which arise when a woman goes out to work in the article working mothers. I strongly urge would be life partners to discuss this important issue in detail. Appropriate marital advice before marriage by elderly people helps prospective life partners to understand this important issue.

Men and woman are biologically and emotionally different. Instead of fighting for equality they should complement each other.

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Another issue that is generally not discussed before marriage is the care of elderly people. In India it is considered the duty of children to look after their parents in old age. In many so-called developed countries old people spend their last days in old age homes and this is becoming common even in India.

I do not consider this as a sign of progress. Without caring for each other life becomes a burden. Parents should nurture their children and children in turn should look after their parents in old age except under some special circumstances. Elderly people can be a source of guidance and moral support whenever there is a crisis.

People learn many lessons from life and the younger generation can benefit from them. A society, which treats elderly people as trash is not a civilized society at all. Many old people live an isolated life even though their children are wealthy.

They yearn for some love from those whom they helped to walk, talk and earn livelihood. It would be highly deplorable if they are forced to live their lives in loneliness and agony wondering whether they should bless their children or curse them.

It is highly desirable that life partners postpone having a child till they are mentally prepared to face the challenges of parenthood. They should try to learn as much as possible about pregnancy, childbirth and child health.

Two people together bring a new soul into this world. How can one relinquish his/her duties towards that child unless taken away by death. But this should not take more than two or three years as having a child after certain age carries certain risks.

It is very important for life partners to be loyal to each other. Infidelity in married life can cause serious problems both physical and psychological. Both life partners should take a vow never to have any extramarital relationship.

It is not worth getting an incurable disease like AIDS or suffer from life long guilty conscience for momentary pleasure. Such parents find it difficult to devote sufficient time for children leading to disruption in family.

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